You may or may not have heard of Heather Specyalski, a hot mess if ever there was one. Back in 2006 her lawyer argued in a wrongful death lawsuit that she could not possibly have been driving the car that wrecked on Rte. 9 and killed her then-boyfriend Neil Esposito, because she was busy performing a sex act on him at the time. (See what happens, guys, when you beg for road head? It’s no laughing matter.)
Well, now she’s in trouble again. This time she’s been charged with giving her 15-year-old son the alcohol that led to his overdose and death.
This lady clearly needs to learn when the party is over…
1/5/09 *In light of some of the comments we’ve gotten defending Specyalski, and our own curiousity about what exactly she was alleged to have done, we went back to The Courant for more information. According to the newspaper:
Terry Donovan, Specyalski’s lawyer, said the state seems to be charging Specyalski with failing to lock up the medications she takes as a result of the car accident, not keeping alcohol out of her house, not locking up her car keys and not taking her son to the hospital after it appeared he had ingested alcohol.
The charges seem a bit dubious. So it seems there are two conclusions people looking in from the outside (such as myself) might make: either the cops are out to get her OR she knew her kid had a problem and didn’t do nearly enough to keep dangerous substances out of his hands. Surely she’s kicking herself harder than anyone else could, no matter what the circumstances, but I’m still wondering about the police report…
wow, you have serious issues for saying anything about heather. she has suffered more pain than anyone should in a lifetime, and as far as brandon her son is concerned he was a good friend of mine, and heather was a good mother to brandon. she loved brandon very much, as he did her. so before you say “this lady clearly needs to know when the party is over” know your facts.
thanks.
Feel free to enlighten us. Are the charges bogus?
I agree with the first comment. I was brandons girlfriend at the time of his death and heather was like a second mother to me. I was on the phone with brandon all night and he was doing what alott if other teenagers are doing nowadays. Havin a few drinks with a friend…. Heather was in her room through everything that happened she didn’t know brandon was in the state he was in… Had she known I’m sure brandon wouldve been stopped.
How’s that for enlightenment u ignorant ass. :p
It sounds like everyone making comments is either not level headed or is too YOUNG to make a statement about this. I knew a lot about what was going on too. If you were a friend or girlfriend of Brandon’s you might as well be quiet because you don’t know enough about the world yet to make any conclusions on this case. Heather clearly needs help herself and should never have been put in that position to be in control of substances around teenagers. She needs help herself and should not even live on her own. She tries to make everyone think that she is okay in the head. Let’s do something about her being a threat to society before someone else dies????!!!
here here! when we’re young (and most of us here are…ESPECIALLY those who are friends or girlfriends of brandon), you look to adults as role models. if they are nice, they are automatically good people to respect and look up to. however, all the “niceness” in the world doesn’t negate the real problems someone might have.
good people can have issues too…and needing help doesn’t make them bad people. needing to learn when the party needs to stop doesn’t make them bad people either necessarily.
youth can be blinding as to the truth…and naivete can is charming and staunch defense of the woman is “nice”, but when you grow up you realize that adults have problems too…and, like heather’s case, these problems need to be addressed.
I love heather, and know she truely loved brandon.
and if you actually KNEW her or brandon you would know that brandon was her baby, NO matter what no mother deserves to loose a child like heather lost brandon. so stop acting like she was some kind of horrible mother and a “hott” mess”. And saying heather has “problems”, I think you would to if you lost a child. Its really sad that the media and people have to put down heather like this, and cannot find one good thing about her.
i miss you brandon
and stay strong heather.
You have to be very young to say a hott mess in a blog when you’re not repeating someone else’s statement. No one is saying Heather has always been a bad person but on the anniversary of Brandon’s death i would have hoped you have read the affidavit and have actually spoken to the family of brandon to know what really happened. If you are not a mother, which i hope at your age you are NOT, you wouldnt know the pain of losing a child. And granted it is the most horrible and terrifying thing to ever encounter, in this case Brandon could have been here today if Heather did do her job as a mother and brought her son to a hospital when she noticed him passed out in the backseat!!!!
I’m an adult and know Heather very well. These charges are bogus just like the ones in the tragic death of Mr. Esposito’s car accident. This woman is innocent and it will all come out eventually – these charges should NEVER have been brought forth. This is persecution of a grieving mother who has no will left so she is being used as a scapegoat because, sadly, people always look to blame someone when something this tragic happens, and she’s the easiest target. Trust me, at this point, there is no more suffering anyone could cause more than what she’s feeling right now – and it’s not guilt – it’s a mother who lost a child tragically.
Remember, Heather – you have many, many people who love you and are standing by you to be your strength when you cannot be such for yourself.
Bogus…??? Innocent…??? get your head out of your __s will ya. Heather couldn’t be bothered being a mother; she was always too busy being a ‘victim’. She loved Brandon because he was her son [period]. For years, Brandon acted out mainly for ATTENTION from his parents. They BOTH used Brandon against each other resulting in Brandon never feeling as though he belonged or that he was wanted. As for Heahter, she gave 2-sh_ts what Brandon did and when he did it. She was always too busy dealing with pain and other issues (stemming from an accident that happened 10 yrs ago!!!) Why is she prescribed pain pills anyway? I know an RN who said she should’ve been slowly cut off of medication and subscribed ‘physical therapy, yoga & meditation’ for pain. I know my HMO wouldn’t pay for me to have pain medicine after a year; let alone 10 yrs. How was she getting it and paying for it anyway? The morals of her doctor(s) should be in question here as well. Let’s not lose sight of the fact that “Brandon” is the victim here. Brandon is the one I pray to. I am ‘Amazed’ as well as Astonished that our judicial system is yet again….failing us taxpayers. Heather should get no less than ‘NEGLIGENT HOMICIDE’ for Brandon’s death as well as 3 counts of Risk of Injury. You should thank your lucky stars I’m not on the bench.
I agree , i dont understand how Heather could receive ROI instead of Negligent homicide. I new england alone there are more than 5 cases of Minors Overdosing and an adult being behind it. What is wrong with people now adays. Your 14,15 and 16 yr old should not be out drinking because as the young lady stated on 1/5/09 Brandon’s girlfriend at the time, its what teenagers do, have a few drinks with friends. Do her parents allow her to drink and do drugs? Will the children who attended Brandon’s funeral be attending hers as well. I dont understand what this world is coming to.
Heather deserves to go to jail not just for Brandon but for Mr esposito as well! When you have money and are a White woman,yes i said it, people look at you very differently. If either situation that Heather was involved happened in Hartford or to a person of a different race they would be behind bars on death row right now. I dont feel sorry for Heather i feel sorry for everyone else who lost Brandon due to her negligence and lack of responsibility and intelligence. If you think it’s ok for parents to provide their children with alcohol because that’s just what kids do, THE BOY WAS 15. I woudnt dare give my child a drink, and you bet you ass if my child was caught drinking he would regret he ever took that first sip. Lets stop making excuses and saying o woah is me for Heather and let her live up to what SHE caused.
All I have to say is that Heather’s life was a mess before this happened and she herself only kept making it worse. Stop making it sound like this is the first bad thing that has happened to her. Not going to find any sympathy here.
oh excuse me know one asked for you to have any sympathy.
stay strong heather, love you and miss you brandon.
“know” one? do you mean “no one”?
hahaha oh excuse me, “no one”*what a joke.
I Think everyone is missing the big picture here. There is a reason teenagers, and many adults should not drink, or do drugs. What happened was not only tragic to the immediate family, but heart wrenching to many children who knew and loved Brandon. When they are adults, they will understand why people are so mortified with how Heather has acted and the bad choices, one after another that she has made. We as parents are supposed to protect our children, not supply them with the means for them to knowingly or unknowingly hurt themselves. I’m sorry but it is as simple as that and if she is not punished beyond the obvious of loosing her son. There will never be a lesson learned. God forbid we let history repeat itself!!! Not to my children.
NO MATTER WHAT…IF YOUR CHILD IS SLEEPING IN THE BACKSEAT OF YOUR CAR…AND YOU KNOW THEY’VE BEEN DRINKING…YOU SHOULD CHECK ON THEM MORE THAN EVERY FOUR HOURS…